I was inspired by a recent church men’s group morning coffee gathering to write this post. Though Pastor Bill offered the post’s title spiritually, I see it spanning my life – and maybe giving you ideas for yours? Man, I’m so sorry that your friend Jose is such a nagging optimist...
- Ask: I asked God recently what to do with my sons. Can’t say I heard any clear answer but felt shutting up was the right thing – stop offering ill-fitting advice cloaked as wisdom. Sure enough, the older one bought a screaming deal Jeep and the younger son moved out, with Leg 3 of his Great Adventure being an Amtrak ride to the next place to put his pillow – Bedford, Indiana. And they're now living some great adventures.
- Do: Listen to God and my wife. Between them, I get nearly all the guidance, wisdom and comfort a guy needs. Tack this one onto the first item – I constantly need to re-focus on listen and shut down the inner monologue that’s brain-spawned. Intuition and feeling my way through life works, at least for me, so much better.
- Ask: “Jose, stop being a bull in the project office. Ask questions. Figure out, by listening, how to be a better leader. Drop your presumptions at the door. Ahh, isn’t that easier, now?”
- Do: We’re in our new homeland, one I so want to be a long-term fit. Why keep planning big things that take too much time, effort and/or money. Do the small things. Volunteer to lead things at church. Spend casual time with my daughter without making such a production out of the planning. Find out what jazzes Michele up and get on-board. It’s about the relationships, as my mood and outlook transform me into someone better than I was before.
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